For all the guys who have no idea what to get their hunny bunny this Christmas ...
1. You can never go wrong with jewelry. And no, I don't mean go to Tiffany's and buy her some fancy diamond necklace that ends up setting you back six months. Go to Target ... Kohls ... even Wal-Mart (seriously, Wal-Mart actually has nice jewelry!). Find her something simple that she can wear with any outfit (not anything big, bulky or flashy), and she'll cherish it because it reminds her of you.
2. Girls love things that smell nice. So why not stop in Bath and Body works? Guys don't realize the wealth of smelly good stuff that hide in this store (body spray, shower gel, lotion, candles ...) AND nothing in there is going to cost you anywhere near as much as the fancy perfumes that really don't smell that great anyway.
3. Stuffed animals. Now, this category is a little tricky because some girls love 'em and some girls don't. BUT you should know your sweetie well enough to know whether she'd appreciate this gesture or not. This could also be a good way to show how well you know her. When you think stuffed animal, most people automatically think teddy bear. BUT if she has claimed to LOVE LOVE LOVE lizards, why not try and find her a stuffed lizard? Creativity will definitely earn you extra brownie points!
4. There's also the option of a gift card to a girly store such as Victoria's Secret. This way, she's bound to get something that she likes, and maybe she'll actually let you go with her to pick something out. But please don't only give her a gift card. This is your significant other ... you need something else that's more personal as well.
5. Uhh ... Chocolate. Duh! Come on, guys. You should be able to come up with this one on your own. And if she doesn't like chocolate, ask her what her favorite candy is, fill a stocking up with it, and write something sweet on the stocking.
These are all simple ideas, but for some reason, a lot of guys (not all of them but many) draw a blank when it comes to gift-giving.
I also think that guys have a problem with not looking around when Christmas shopping. They'll walk in a store, see something that's okay, and buy it ... just to be done shopping.
Come on, guys. You love your girlfriend, and you know her likes and her dislikes. She shouldn't have to tell you exactly what she wants for Christmas. We're girls. We love surprises from our men. If you take some time, you're sure to get her something that she loves.
XOXO
Jennifer
Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Wednesday, April 23, 2008
Lunch with your slutty ex (who has a boyfriend)
Okay, guys ... we know that you have girl friends too. That's cool. Diversity is great. I love my girlfriends, and I love love love Mr. Amazing (Sam), but I love my guy friends too.
Guys are different than girls, not only physcially, but also mentally. Guys are more reasonable. Girls are more emotional. Guys are more likely to do something physical, girl are more likely to sit and play with dolls.
Anyways ... we know you like hanging out with your girl friends, and that's all fine and dandy, but do us a favor: Don't go it alone! Don't hang out with just HER. Go in a group so it's not like a date. Please! It makes us nervous times a million to hear that you're going to go do lunch with a girl you used to date, or just any girl.
Why?
I'm glad you asked.
HORMONES. Psychologically and sociologically speaking, our primal instinct when we see a member of the opposite sex is to wonder whether they'd make a good parent and/or a good reproductive partner.
Even if you think nothing is going to happen ... don't keep us here biting our nails wondering what's going on. We will make the promise to you not to hang out with our guy friends alone. Please do us the common courtsey.
Peace,
Cait
Guys are different than girls, not only physcially, but also mentally. Guys are more reasonable. Girls are more emotional. Guys are more likely to do something physical, girl are more likely to sit and play with dolls.
Anyways ... we know you like hanging out with your girl friends, and that's all fine and dandy, but do us a favor: Don't go it alone! Don't hang out with just HER. Go in a group so it's not like a date. Please! It makes us nervous times a million to hear that you're going to go do lunch with a girl you used to date, or just any girl.
Why?
I'm glad you asked.
HORMONES. Psychologically and sociologically speaking, our primal instinct when we see a member of the opposite sex is to wonder whether they'd make a good parent and/or a good reproductive partner.
Even if you think nothing is going to happen ... don't keep us here biting our nails wondering what's going on. We will make the promise to you not to hang out with our guy friends alone. Please do us the common courtsey.
Peace,
Cait
Thursday, April 17, 2008
Changes
There's no denying it ... it's good to mix it up every now and then. If you're a girl, you can wear your hair curly if it's naturally straight or wear a dress if you're naturally the sporty type. If you're a guy, you could give up the Muse t-shirt for a day and wear a button-up shirt or put some gel in your hair for the first time in your life.
There is nothing wrong with making little changes to your appearance every now and then, and hey, it can be fun if you give it a shot. Now, if people are constantly trying to change who you are completely, that isn't right. Sure, it's good to mix things up every now and then, but in the long run, you should still be free to be yourself whether that means stinky/ugly tennis shoes or wearing the same old shirt every three days. I've been through times when friends have tried to change the way that I dress and do my hair, etc. for the long run, and well, it didn't work out so well for them. After all, I am me. And sometimes you just have to say, "Love me for who I am or leave."
BUT trying different things is a part of life. It's how you figure out what you like and what you don't like.
So now you're thinking, "Why try something if I know that I'm not going to like it?"
Maybe you won't like it, but maybe someone else will love it, which will make them happy for a little while and probably also proud that you tried something different. I'm not saying that you should try to please the world before yourself. At the end of the day, what YOU like about yourself is what matters the most. After all, you have to be comfortable in your own shoes or well, your feet are always going to hurt.
It's easy to stay within the walls of our comfort zones. I personally hate wearing a lot of make-up (especially around my eyes because my contacts go bonkers if there is anything near them), and I hate trying to curl my hair. However, people love it when my hair is curly (I'm not really sure why), and sometimes my girl friends bug me to put more makeup on. Sure, this can be bothersome, but other times I know that it's just for fun and that my friends do love me for me.
...Right guys? ;)
Anyway, just because you step out of your comfort zone and do something different for a day doesn't mean that you're going to be trapped in another dimension filled with curly hair, button-up shirts, and hair gel. Just have fun every now and then, and do something different.
After all, you only have one life.
Don't spend all of your time within the walls of your comfort zone.
XOXO
Jennifer
There is nothing wrong with making little changes to your appearance every now and then, and hey, it can be fun if you give it a shot. Now, if people are constantly trying to change who you are completely, that isn't right. Sure, it's good to mix things up every now and then, but in the long run, you should still be free to be yourself whether that means stinky/ugly tennis shoes or wearing the same old shirt every three days. I've been through times when friends have tried to change the way that I dress and do my hair, etc. for the long run, and well, it didn't work out so well for them. After all, I am me. And sometimes you just have to say, "Love me for who I am or leave."
BUT trying different things is a part of life. It's how you figure out what you like and what you don't like.
So now you're thinking, "Why try something if I know that I'm not going to like it?"
Maybe you won't like it, but maybe someone else will love it, which will make them happy for a little while and probably also proud that you tried something different. I'm not saying that you should try to please the world before yourself. At the end of the day, what YOU like about yourself is what matters the most. After all, you have to be comfortable in your own shoes or well, your feet are always going to hurt.
It's easy to stay within the walls of our comfort zones. I personally hate wearing a lot of make-up (especially around my eyes because my contacts go bonkers if there is anything near them), and I hate trying to curl my hair. However, people love it when my hair is curly (I'm not really sure why), and sometimes my girl friends bug me to put more makeup on. Sure, this can be bothersome, but other times I know that it's just for fun and that my friends do love me for me.
...Right guys? ;)
Anyway, just because you step out of your comfort zone and do something different for a day doesn't mean that you're going to be trapped in another dimension filled with curly hair, button-up shirts, and hair gel. Just have fun every now and then, and do something different.
After all, you only have one life.
Don't spend all of your time within the walls of your comfort zone.
XOXO
Jennifer
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
*sparkle sparkle* JEWERLY!
Sorry it's been a while since I've posted, but here I am, free of the newspaper (for now), and writing to all of you wise and receptive boy-pupils about something very important:
Jewerly. Rings in particular. With precious stones.
There are two major ones I'd like to discuss here: Promise rings and engagement rings. Now, I only have experience with the first mentioned, but I can tell you the two basic classifications for the second. But I'm getting ahead of myself.
Firstly: Promise rings.
Promise rings are a great way to show a girl that you love her and care for her and are serious about the relationship. UNLESS YOU SAY SOMETHING, we do not take it as a pre-engagement ring.
There are several routes to go with promise rings:
1. Something fancy, that's like a pre-engagement ring. That's when you're really serious and have been together for a long time. You can either wear in on your ring finger (so it looks like you're engaged), or on another finger.
2. Something simple and cheap. Well, not cheap-cheap, but not over a hundred dollars. This can be as simple as a band with "I love you" inscripted inside, a ring of hearts, a pretty flower ring, whatever. This can be worn anywhere also.
3. The custom-made promise rings. These are so cute, as long as you have complimentary birth stones. The person who gave me a promise ring (Mr. Ring, we'll call him) and I looked online and found one we really liked. It was two hearts made out of our birth stones, with our names engraved in the sides of the ring. There were also plain round stones (not heart-shaped), fancier hearts, simple hearts ... you name it, we found it.
In my experience with promise rings, I prefered something simple and cheap, but Mr. Ring insisted on going all out and got me a really nice ring with ten little tiny diamonds on it. It was pretty abstract (I love abstract), and I wore it on my middle finger (it was too big for my ring finger, and it wouldn't have fit beside my purity ring anyways [I wonder if that was a sign...]).
Anyways, he could have done better with the giving of the ring, but he was really excited about having gotten it ... whatever. I wore that ring all the time, except when I did my sporting things (didn't want to lose it - it was way to expensive), when I was asleep, and after I knew I was going to break up with him. It lived in my pocket after that, then I gave it back to him.
One thing to never never ever do with a promise or engagement ring: When it's given back to you, melt it down to make something else, sell it on eBay, or pawn it. Mr. Ring gave my returned one to his sister. That's a little sick. But I digress.
Engagement rings
There are two types of women, I think: The traditional woman and the non-traditional woman. Simple, right? Yeah.
The traditional woman wants a nice dinner or romantic getaway, and then in the evening, right around sunset, you propose on bended knee, she says yes, you give her the ring, kiss her passionately, then you live happily ever after.
The beach is a classic place for this sort of thing. Or a nice restuarant where you had your first date. (I personally think first date places are most romantic, or the place you became an official couple, or where you had your first kiss, depending on which is most romantic. If your first kiss was in your car, that's not a good place. If, as it is for me and Sam, the place where you became official is a nice rock with a waterfall nearby and the stars overhead by candlelight, that's a great place to propose or present a promise ring.)
And the non-traditional woman. You can do anything with her. Propose to her with or without a ring. Do it while sky diving, cooking dinner, riding on an airplane, after singing her a song from beneath her bedroom window, whatever.
No matter what you do with rings (promise or engagement), make her feel like a princess. We are princesses. Good luck!
Peace,
Cait
Jewerly. Rings in particular. With precious stones.
There are two major ones I'd like to discuss here: Promise rings and engagement rings. Now, I only have experience with the first mentioned, but I can tell you the two basic classifications for the second. But I'm getting ahead of myself.
Firstly: Promise rings.
Promise rings are a great way to show a girl that you love her and care for her and are serious about the relationship. UNLESS YOU SAY SOMETHING, we do not take it as a pre-engagement ring.
There are several routes to go with promise rings:
1. Something fancy, that's like a pre-engagement ring. That's when you're really serious and have been together for a long time. You can either wear in on your ring finger (so it looks like you're engaged), or on another finger.
2. Something simple and cheap. Well, not cheap-cheap, but not over a hundred dollars. This can be as simple as a band with "I love you" inscripted inside, a ring of hearts, a pretty flower ring, whatever. This can be worn anywhere also.
3. The custom-made promise rings. These are so cute, as long as you have complimentary birth stones. The person who gave me a promise ring (Mr. Ring, we'll call him) and I looked online and found one we really liked. It was two hearts made out of our birth stones, with our names engraved in the sides of the ring. There were also plain round stones (not heart-shaped), fancier hearts, simple hearts ... you name it, we found it.
In my experience with promise rings, I prefered something simple and cheap, but Mr. Ring insisted on going all out and got me a really nice ring with ten little tiny diamonds on it. It was pretty abstract (I love abstract), and I wore it on my middle finger (it was too big for my ring finger, and it wouldn't have fit beside my purity ring anyways [I wonder if that was a sign...]).
Anyways, he could have done better with the giving of the ring, but he was really excited about having gotten it ... whatever. I wore that ring all the time, except when I did my sporting things (didn't want to lose it - it was way to expensive), when I was asleep, and after I knew I was going to break up with him. It lived in my pocket after that, then I gave it back to him.
One thing to never never ever do with a promise or engagement ring: When it's given back to you, melt it down to make something else, sell it on eBay, or pawn it. Mr. Ring gave my returned one to his sister. That's a little sick. But I digress.
Engagement rings
There are two types of women, I think: The traditional woman and the non-traditional woman. Simple, right? Yeah.
The traditional woman wants a nice dinner or romantic getaway, and then in the evening, right around sunset, you propose on bended knee, she says yes, you give her the ring, kiss her passionately, then you live happily ever after.
The beach is a classic place for this sort of thing. Or a nice restuarant where you had your first date. (I personally think first date places are most romantic, or the place you became an official couple, or where you had your first kiss, depending on which is most romantic. If your first kiss was in your car, that's not a good place. If, as it is for me and Sam, the place where you became official is a nice rock with a waterfall nearby and the stars overhead by candlelight, that's a great place to propose or present a promise ring.)
And the non-traditional woman. You can do anything with her. Propose to her with or without a ring. Do it while sky diving, cooking dinner, riding on an airplane, after singing her a song from beneath her bedroom window, whatever.
No matter what you do with rings (promise or engagement), make her feel like a princess. We are princesses. Good luck!
Peace,
Cait
Wednesday, April 9, 2008
How To Get Out Of The "Friends Zone"
Sure, it's easier to be her friend at first. After all, this way there isn't any pressure. You don't have to worry about asking her out or being "smooth." You can just talk and be genuine without worry.
But what happens when you wish you weren't just her friend anymore? When you're tired of her introducing you as her buddy or pal?
Sometimes it's a great leap to get out of the "friends zone," but then again, it can be worth it.
Here are four tips that can help:
1. Don't be afraid to get close to her. Tap her hand when you're trying to get her attention. Randomly poke her shoulder just to be funny. Even ask her to arm wrestle or play thumb war with you (and maybe suggest that the loser buys dinner). These things are cute and playful, but they're not crossing the line. There is nothing wrong with being a little flirtatious. It's the first step toward jumping out of the friends zone.
2. Befriend her friends. You definitely get extra brownie points if her friends like you. Now, I'm not saying that you should get her friend's phone number or something like that (because that would be weird, and it would look like you're trying to get with her friend), but being nice to her friends and being respectful when they are around can go a long way. Ask them how they've been doing, and listen when they speak. If you're nice and polite, there is a chance that they'll go back and tell your potential girl how great of a person you seem to be.
3. Pick on her. Make up a silly nickname for her. Pick on the way that she eats or touches her hair whenever she's nervous. Make up inside jokes that only the two of you will know. Make her laugh so hard that soda comes out of her nose. Pick on her likes and her dislikes. If you can keep a girl laughing, whenever she thinks of you, she'll probably have a smile on her face.
4. Show her that you're not the "typical guy." What do girls want? They want to be wanted. They want a guy who cares and will be reassuring. Someone who will prove to them that they're not like all of the jerks in this world. So don't make perverted comments around her. Don't look another girl up and down as she walks by when you're with her. Listen when she talks, and actually try to remember certain things that she tells you. She'll probably admire you for being a genuine and sweet guy.
It's difficult when you have a crush on a close friend because the last thing that you want to do is lose that person as a friend. But, then again, sometimes it gets to the point where you have to ask yourself if you'll always regret not trying to win her heart.
XOXO
Jennifer
But what happens when you wish you weren't just her friend anymore? When you're tired of her introducing you as her buddy or pal?
Sometimes it's a great leap to get out of the "friends zone," but then again, it can be worth it.
Here are four tips that can help:
1. Don't be afraid to get close to her. Tap her hand when you're trying to get her attention. Randomly poke her shoulder just to be funny. Even ask her to arm wrestle or play thumb war with you (and maybe suggest that the loser buys dinner). These things are cute and playful, but they're not crossing the line. There is nothing wrong with being a little flirtatious. It's the first step toward jumping out of the friends zone.
2. Befriend her friends. You definitely get extra brownie points if her friends like you. Now, I'm not saying that you should get her friend's phone number or something like that (because that would be weird, and it would look like you're trying to get with her friend), but being nice to her friends and being respectful when they are around can go a long way. Ask them how they've been doing, and listen when they speak. If you're nice and polite, there is a chance that they'll go back and tell your potential girl how great of a person you seem to be.
3. Pick on her. Make up a silly nickname for her. Pick on the way that she eats or touches her hair whenever she's nervous. Make up inside jokes that only the two of you will know. Make her laugh so hard that soda comes out of her nose. Pick on her likes and her dislikes. If you can keep a girl laughing, whenever she thinks of you, she'll probably have a smile on her face.
4. Show her that you're not the "typical guy." What do girls want? They want to be wanted. They want a guy who cares and will be reassuring. Someone who will prove to them that they're not like all of the jerks in this world. So don't make perverted comments around her. Don't look another girl up and down as she walks by when you're with her. Listen when she talks, and actually try to remember certain things that she tells you. She'll probably admire you for being a genuine and sweet guy.
It's difficult when you have a crush on a close friend because the last thing that you want to do is lose that person as a friend. But, then again, sometimes it gets to the point where you have to ask yourself if you'll always regret not trying to win her heart.
XOXO
Jennifer
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
So What Am I ... A Duck?
What is it that seems to catch the glare of guys all over the world every day? Hot girls. But what exactly makes a girl hot? Is it the way that she looks, the way that she dresses, or her level of confidence and the way that she presents herself?
Before I go any further, I am not trying to say that girls don't comment on "hot guys." This blog is just fueled by my own personal frustration with the male species.
Lately, I have heard a few guy friends of mine bring up the topic of "hot girls." Now, I realize that they are guys, and so this is going to happen every now and then, but sometimes it makes me feel like I'm ... well ... a duck ... or invisible ... or just "one of the guys." Hello? I'm a girl, too, and I realize that I don't look like Angelina Jolie or a Victoria's Secret model, but at the same time, I like to believe that I'm not completely unfortunate looking.
Anyway, I was discussing what it is that makes a girl "hot" yesterday with one of my guy friends, and the conversation basically went like this:
Me: Why do guys seem to only care about whether or whether not a girl is hot?
Billy Bob: Because they're guys.
Me: So what makes a girl hot?
Billy Bob: You don't want to do the things that equal "hot."
Me: So you're saying that hot equals trashy?
Billy Bob: No. Just go to the tanning bed and dress differently. Sluttiness is not implied. Go to Abercrombie, Hollister, etc.
Me. Ah, so you're saying that being "hot" is merely materialistic?
The conversation fizzled from there. But if being "hot" means having a nice tan and wearing something from Hollister, almost every girl can be hot, right?
Negative. I personally feel like what is "hot" to one guy isn't going to be "hot" to another. Some guys go after girls with big boobs and would consider a girl "hot" just for that. Other guys will think a girl is hot because of her level of confidence or even something simple, such as her eyes.
I used to work at a shoe store, and well, here's a scenerio about a "hot" girl that didn't make me feel too great about myself ... "Lucy" was about to quit at the shoe store, so "James" came over to me and told me that "Randy" was talking to "Lucy" and told her that he was sad she was leaving because there would no longer be any hot girls working at the store. Ouch. That hurt. Why he thought it was a good idea to tell me that, I don't know.
Shallowness annoyes me. The idea that girls are simply here to look pretty annoyes me. You can call me a feminist if you want, but jerks who treat women like dirt and only care about the way that they look should ... well, I won't go there.
Once again, I know that there are girls out there who are just as bad as guys when it comes to this. People forget that beauty fades and personality doesn't. But, once again, boys will be boys just like girls will be girls.
And for those guys who actually do try to get to know girls and don't judge just based on the exterrior, thank you. You're the ones that girls are lucky to end up with.
XOXO
Jennifer
P.S. I am curious to know your thoughts, guys. What, in your mind, makes a girl "hot?"
Before I go any further, I am not trying to say that girls don't comment on "hot guys." This blog is just fueled by my own personal frustration with the male species.
Lately, I have heard a few guy friends of mine bring up the topic of "hot girls." Now, I realize that they are guys, and so this is going to happen every now and then, but sometimes it makes me feel like I'm ... well ... a duck ... or invisible ... or just "one of the guys." Hello? I'm a girl, too, and I realize that I don't look like Angelina Jolie or a Victoria's Secret model, but at the same time, I like to believe that I'm not completely unfortunate looking.
Anyway, I was discussing what it is that makes a girl "hot" yesterday with one of my guy friends, and the conversation basically went like this:
Me: Why do guys seem to only care about whether or whether not a girl is hot?
Billy Bob: Because they're guys.
Me: So what makes a girl hot?
Billy Bob: You don't want to do the things that equal "hot."
Me: So you're saying that hot equals trashy?
Billy Bob: No. Just go to the tanning bed and dress differently. Sluttiness is not implied. Go to Abercrombie, Hollister, etc.
Me. Ah, so you're saying that being "hot" is merely materialistic?
The conversation fizzled from there. But if being "hot" means having a nice tan and wearing something from Hollister, almost every girl can be hot, right?
Negative. I personally feel like what is "hot" to one guy isn't going to be "hot" to another. Some guys go after girls with big boobs and would consider a girl "hot" just for that. Other guys will think a girl is hot because of her level of confidence or even something simple, such as her eyes.
I used to work at a shoe store, and well, here's a scenerio about a "hot" girl that didn't make me feel too great about myself ... "Lucy" was about to quit at the shoe store, so "James" came over to me and told me that "Randy" was talking to "Lucy" and told her that he was sad she was leaving because there would no longer be any hot girls working at the store. Ouch. That hurt. Why he thought it was a good idea to tell me that, I don't know.
Shallowness annoyes me. The idea that girls are simply here to look pretty annoyes me. You can call me a feminist if you want, but jerks who treat women like dirt and only care about the way that they look should ... well, I won't go there.
Once again, I know that there are girls out there who are just as bad as guys when it comes to this. People forget that beauty fades and personality doesn't. But, once again, boys will be boys just like girls will be girls.
And for those guys who actually do try to get to know girls and don't judge just based on the exterrior, thank you. You're the ones that girls are lucky to end up with.
XOXO
Jennifer
P.S. I am curious to know your thoughts, guys. What, in your mind, makes a girl "hot?"
Monday, April 7, 2008
Certain Things Should Be Left Unsaid
So you’re walking through the mall with your girlfriend Susie, and you pass this hot redhead with a short skirt. You automatically think, "Man, she’s fine." Then you turn to your girlfriend and say sheepishly, "I’m a horrible boyfriend." Susie asks why and intertwines her fingers in yours, holding your hand gently. You respond with, "I thought that girl that we just passed was really attractive."
This type of scenario does happen in relationships. Many people feel inclined to tell their significant other when they find someone else attractive because it makes them feel less guilty for looking. However, by making yourself feel less guilty, you’re only making your significant other more insecure.
There are certain things that we all need to keep to ourselves. If you see a cute/hot guy or girl while you are with your significant other, whether you are out at the mall, in a restaurant, or at the movies, don’t lean over and admit to your boyfriend or girlfriend that you find this person attractive. Even if your ex sends you a picture of his or her new haircut (which surprisingly looks really good), don’t admit how great your ex’s new look is to your significant other. Just file these thoughts into a cabinet in the back of your brain (and hopefully they will soon be lost in the clutter).
Sean is with Emily for a reason just like Johnny is with Claire. If you are with someone and you love them, other people shouldn’t catch your eye often. Sure, it’s okay to think that "he’s cute" or "she’s pretty" every now and then, but if you are continuously checking other people out, this is extremely disrespectful. You should ask yourself if you really care about the person that you are dating, and if you really want to be with them. Also, ask yourself if you really deserve the person that you’re with, and be thankful that he or she is still with you. Sure, looking isn’t cheating, but it can definitely hurt a relationship.
Also, some people choose to point out when they find someone else attractive to their significant other because they enjoy making them jealous. Why do they do this? Because seeing the one that they love jealous makes them more secure. This way, they know that their boyfriend or girlfriend really cares about them. Of course, this is another case when the person fueling the jealousy is just trying to help himself or herself. Never try and make your boyfriend and girlfriend jealous by bringing up someone who is attractive (of course, actors or actresses are okay). Jealousy aside, this will just make your boyfriend or girlfriend insecure, and it will leave them wondering if they will ever be enough for you.
It’s natural to find certain people attractive, but there is a line to be drawn. Next time you see a cute guy or girl, keep the thought to yourself. Don’t tell your significant other because you feel guilty or you’d like to see him or her jealous. And show respect for the person that you are dating. If this means looking the other way when you spot someone from a distance, by all means, look the other way. Remember how lucky you are to be with the person that you’re currently with, and remind them that they mean everything to you and they are, without a doubt, enough for you.
XOXO
Jennifer
This type of scenario does happen in relationships. Many people feel inclined to tell their significant other when they find someone else attractive because it makes them feel less guilty for looking. However, by making yourself feel less guilty, you’re only making your significant other more insecure.
There are certain things that we all need to keep to ourselves. If you see a cute/hot guy or girl while you are with your significant other, whether you are out at the mall, in a restaurant, or at the movies, don’t lean over and admit to your boyfriend or girlfriend that you find this person attractive. Even if your ex sends you a picture of his or her new haircut (which surprisingly looks really good), don’t admit how great your ex’s new look is to your significant other. Just file these thoughts into a cabinet in the back of your brain (and hopefully they will soon be lost in the clutter).
Sean is with Emily for a reason just like Johnny is with Claire. If you are with someone and you love them, other people shouldn’t catch your eye often. Sure, it’s okay to think that "he’s cute" or "she’s pretty" every now and then, but if you are continuously checking other people out, this is extremely disrespectful. You should ask yourself if you really care about the person that you are dating, and if you really want to be with them. Also, ask yourself if you really deserve the person that you’re with, and be thankful that he or she is still with you. Sure, looking isn’t cheating, but it can definitely hurt a relationship.
Also, some people choose to point out when they find someone else attractive to their significant other because they enjoy making them jealous. Why do they do this? Because seeing the one that they love jealous makes them more secure. This way, they know that their boyfriend or girlfriend really cares about them. Of course, this is another case when the person fueling the jealousy is just trying to help himself or herself. Never try and make your boyfriend and girlfriend jealous by bringing up someone who is attractive (of course, actors or actresses are okay). Jealousy aside, this will just make your boyfriend or girlfriend insecure, and it will leave them wondering if they will ever be enough for you.
It’s natural to find certain people attractive, but there is a line to be drawn. Next time you see a cute guy or girl, keep the thought to yourself. Don’t tell your significant other because you feel guilty or you’d like to see him or her jealous. And show respect for the person that you are dating. If this means looking the other way when you spot someone from a distance, by all means, look the other way. Remember how lucky you are to be with the person that you’re currently with, and remind them that they mean everything to you and they are, without a doubt, enough for you.
XOXO
Jennifer
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